Giving Isn’t Just About the Holidays
The holiday season is a wonderful time of year. It means so many things to so many people. First and foremost for many people it is about celebrating their religion. For others, it’s about celebrating with friends and family, giving, or helping others. For many, it’s about a new start and plans for what will come. It is a time that conjures up good feelings and a time where many feel generous to help others.
It’s a Universal Law
People that are “givers” or “help others” or practice “benevolence” that are success oriented do not do it once a year around the “giving time.” It is part of who they are and what they do on an ongoing basis. If you are a religious or spiritual person, you’ll find many examples of this precept of your faith. It has been said that “you can get anything you want in life if you help enough others get what they want.”
If you add the element of selfless giving to your mindset, you will have a complete philosophy that will serve you well throughout your life and your profession. You must help others without expecting an immediate return, or even any return at all! So, the amended statement should read “you can get anything you want if you help others get what they want and if you do so with no expectations of a return.”
Helping other people, giving of yourself, and generosity, are really a universal law that all successful people understand and employ. To be the best that you can be, you must learn to be selfless. When you help others, not only are you doing something positive, you are also creating mutually beneficial relationships. To put it simply, when you help others, they’re inclined to help you.
Helping others is like karma; eventually, the good efforts you put out toward helping others will eventually circle back to you. Your acts of altruism will almost always have the unforeseen side effect of bringing benefits to you. You will find that people will be more inclined to help you achieve your goals and doors of opportunity will open for you.
The reverse also holds true. Unsuccessful people tend to be self-absorbed. Their only thought is reaching their own goals and they don’t think about the person to whom they are interacting with. From time to time, they may have some successes. But, these successes are not sustainable in the long term as their true selfish character eventually shines through.
The benefits of helping others are not just about getting good karma or feeling good about yourself. There are some real physical and mental benefits that you can also enjoy as a result of this behavior. A review of 40 studies published in the Journal of BMC Public Health on the effect of volunteering on general health and happiness found that volunteering improves both well-being and life satisfaction. I also found volunteering to be linked with decreased levels of depression and a lower risk of dying early.
Another study published in Scientific American examined cortisol levels in response to giving away money and choosing to keep more money for yourself. The study found that the more money people chose to keep in the experiment, the greater shame they felt. This corresponded to an increase in their cortisol levels. Chronically high levels of cortisol have been linked to a number of health ills.
3 Easy Steps to Be a Better Helper
It isn’t hard to incorporate helping others into your life. If you’re not sure where to get started, here are three things that you can to do to become a greater servant of your fellow mankind.
- Be a good listener: You have two ears and only one mouth and you should learn to use them all equally. That means you need to listen more than you talk. Take the time to get to know people. Don’t just listen to what they are saying but listen to how they are saying it. What emotions are they using? If you are meeting someone in person, what does their body language say? Sometimes just words alone don’t really tell you what you need to know about a person and you will need to use your other senses to find out more information. Listening will help you understand the needs of others.
- Be Empathetic: Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and think about what may be going on in their life. You really can’t show empathy unless you know the person you are interacting with and you can make connections to experiences in your own life. Remember that people don’t really care about you unless they know you care about them.
- Have a good heart: Be committed to helping others. Some people call it servant leadership. Kindness and generosity will make people feel better about you as a person. It will also make you a happier and more positive individual, which can only help contribute to your successes in life.
“Create Unstoppable Success!”
Dr. Richard B. Greene, DBA, SSBB, CMPE
Speaker, Author, IronMan Mind Business Coach
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